Showing your shadow side | JPF Daily


Hello Reader

A couple of years ago I met a therapist at a party.
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We talked (as you do!) about the parts of a person that the person prefers not to show - might avoid showing at any cost.
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Performers describe this as your inner clown - the part that it would be humiliating to let others see and laugh at.
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A Jungian therapist might call it your shadow side - comprising characteristics that, in other people, you disapprove of; and entirely fail to recognise in yourself.
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We stayed in touch, working on a project together. (She’s not my therapist.)
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Yesterday we had a meeting on zoom. At the end she mentioned that she’d had an idea about the nature of my clown:
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If you haven’t contemplated these things before, it’s generally considered A Good Thing to get more comfortable with your shadow / your clown.

But that doesn’t make it easy. It can be hard to imagine letting anyone see it.

Here's a snippet from the very end of our Zoom:

JPF What was your clown again? I’ve forgotten.
THERAPIST You made me be shallow, basically.
JPF Oh, yeah, the shallow, small-talking partygoer...
THERAPIST I cannot do it! I’d be more comfortable asking somebody about their death instinct within the first three minutes. Yeah, that was the clown you gave me.

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What’s YOUR clown?

(Ha! You think I expect anyone to answer!)

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